Keep entitlement to a minimum - you don't deserve anything
So here I am minding my own business when up strolls an awesome weekend. I take it in stride and say to myself "holy crap what a great few days everything just seemed to go so damn well." I didn't lose an ounce of muscle mass or strength after dancing for ~24 hours in a 3 day span and eating pretty much whatever I could find during that time. It also appears like I may have lost some fat while I was at it. Also the weekend in itself kicked butt so again everything just lined up like I wasn't expecting. When I got home I benched 300lbs again, proving that the feat was indeed not a fluke like I had suspected but possibly a sustainable piece of fitness I had been working on attaining for a while.
Then the next week I'm minding my own business and even more good luck comes my way! This time in a much more career sided opportunity being presented to me as if I had earned it or something. Then my buddy hits me up to go racing and it's a super cheap club day at Thunder Hill with a hotel right next to the track where you can stay for free pretty much if you're a racer (60$ a night is free right in 2017?) Of course I have a ton of vacation since all i ever do is 3 day weekends like once every other month so I just take some time and no worries man.
Needless to say, I'm stoked on it. Everything is going good. And why does it feel good? Because I don't really feel like I deserve any of it. Well maybe the damn 300lb bench I deserve that. But the awesome dancing? Nah that is usually hit-or-miss and I expect it that way. The career opportunity? I am just doing the same old thing ie kicking butt, so I don't feel like I deserve extra there. The track day? Pfft usually I make sacrifices to do these excursions however this time I definitely didn't expect it to line up so well.
Notice the mindset I usually have;
I'm expecting things to suck and to be a pain in the butt
Like most of the time they are. But when stuff is good, it feels like extra good because I never expect anything to be so sweet.
Compare this to the average party-pooper with comments like:
- Man this dance event sucks there's no skill here
- Man this track day sucks its raining and my brakes are squeaky and I paid way too much for this
- Man this weekend sucked because I didn't get to sit on my butt the whole time like a tick blah blah blah
- Man I can't bench 300 because of calorie intake or CNS activation or something silly
When my weekends are busy I just say "oh well that's a normal weekend." And when dancing is hard and I can't get a groove I say "oh well that's normal dancing right?" and "Normally things are lame right?" And of course a career is just expected to produce mind numbing and coma inducing results and I can't live in a fantasy land where I would bank on anything besides that.
And it's just that kind of attitude that makes you appreciate life a bit more when good stuff occurs. HEY YOU: Lower your expectations and join me on the feel good train. It's pretty sweet in here.